Aita for causing my siblings to lose massive amounts of money. I dropped my toxic family and got into therapy.

Aita for causing my siblings to lose massive amounts of money Dad accused me of turning my siblings against them. I (f24) have 4 siblings Max(m31) Lisa(f20) Chris(m20) Emily (f18). We were talking about this during dinner and my step father cuts in and says “Oh that would be a nice family holiday”. I went to my bank and they helped me get a lawyer, an accountan, and they have set me up with a financial planner. ATIA? When we got home later, my mom told me that I “humiliated” Cassie and that I am in the wrong. When he was alive he explained to me that this was his intention, and that his parents did not need the money. Luckily, I had gotten help from my Dad (it had been assigned as homework to be done over two days), and had the bright idea to ask him to call and check. Its also harder to lose any weight I actually had to lose because of both issues. Not telling my son that his brother is autistic, which is actively causing much distress within his life and our family as a whole. The way the trust works I was told it's also getting interest. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I turned down the inheritence of our childhood home for my siblings by not wanting to work together with them, which could lead to no inheritence in the future (if my dad I might be the asshole for causing my coworker to lose out on $4,000. My husband never really understood, because mom’s husband was charismatic as ESH. He’d borrow my bus pass and lose it. My ex has custody most of the year but my daughter stays with us on on alternating school breaks and summer. We had very little money and were on food stamps on and off, and whenever my father had extra money he spent it on b*oze. I lost 30 pounds and am having bariatric surgery in about a month. My sister (34F) and her husband (36M) just got married 3 months ago. I still would have been excited for her. my dad never said thank you. 2. She is a very responsible girl for her age. But I’m not pregnant i carry around the fibroids and water retention because of them. My son and their son were the same age and they started hanging out. I'm pretty sure about 5 minutes after he officially retired he was enjoying a joint. My great grandma hated my dad (for good reason tbh) so before she died she asked my mom when she thought she'd leave my dad. I think this is completely fair - To this day I still don’t know what triggered this. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: Refusing to let SIL use my address That isn't the worst I've seen here. I work hard for my money and I also don’t have a very high paying job. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: During a fight with my stepsiblings and half sister I exploded and told them I hope their dad dies and that they end up miserable because they deserve it for how they have Idk, I came from a family who’s been struggling with money and financially illiterate (my family never had any savings). Subreddit Announcement The Asshole Universe is Expanding, Again: Introducing Another New Sister Subreddit! Follow the link above to learn more Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. My older sibling (28NB) didn’t see it that way. This has become an issue for I have gotten my money back 1 time (she always swears to pay me back). I said in my very poor Spanish that I would love to help all of them but my mom knew them better and what they needed. Last week she paid me my 30 dollars back she needed and two days later asked me for 20 more dollars to which I responded I did not have it. I let it rot. I think that's almost more annoying to me, because that's our dad. I didn't even take my husband because I wanted it to AITA for causing my husband to miss his trip by not packing his bag He came home and lost it saying I cost him his business trip which supposed to earn him money and made him look unreliable/unprofessional and compromised his I 16F am currently living with my step father and mother, my mother is planning to take me on a massive holiday for my graduation gift. The fund was originally for me and my sister but my mom and sister died four years ago and my grandparents, who hold the account, chose to leave it all for me and continued paying into it. My parents were furious with me, said I was ungrateful and that I don't love my siblings. Anyways I used this money to pay for my studies which I need to continue for another two years. We KNEW we were half siblings and I think we all knew it would destroy us to say anything like that. Yeah they threw a fit when I moved on my 18th birthday. WOW. My aunt on my dad’s side also gave me $5k as a high school graduation gift/money for college so I should be able to complete my degree without needing to get any loans as long as "I told my siblings in the group chat that I bought the AirPod Pros and that they could each e-transfer me the money they agreed they’d give. The third sibling also got less because their son also owed money to my grandmother. Haha, I'm from Poland and we're the same. Idc anymore I’m in a nice routine with my daughter. The bills are mounting and my dad came to me for help because they are now in a situation where they are finding it difficult to come up with money for my half sister's treatment. This would completely change the experience. I (f19) have an estranged grandpa more or less. My ex-husband has not asked to see my daughter for the past week. Sister calls me an hoe for telling the guy about the money, that I wasn't involved, etc. I think it's because I'm the oldest my parents think I need less attention which is true compared to my siblings. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: Telling my parents i don’t want to be my siblings’ caretaker for the rest of my life and that might be judged because they are family I understand they are our eldest's half-siblings, but I don't feel like taking away the monetary freedom I could provide my kids just because I had to buy a bigger car and pay for two more kids. I feel most guilty about the upheaval it caused them and the sort of separation between us now. i didn’t have any previous knowledge I was even in the will. Bro. My siblings feel like they are entitled to some of the inheritance and have told me if I don't give them any they'll stop talking to me and that I'm becoming like my dad. But thing only got My mother has also made it clear I will only be recieving life insurance money if I were to take care of him in the past, which you knowcool, but its whatever. When my siblings (I was a boring nerd in highschool) started smoking weed, his one rule was not in the house- he wouldn't forbid it because hell, if he could he would be joining in- because he had responsibilities. My wife and I were happy beyond words. So I paid our rent and groceries, utilities and phone. Same circumstances as yours. So my dad and stepmom got less money than two of my dad’s siblings. Put your phone on silent, tell them you'll unblock them at Christmas as part of the good spirit and if My teacher knew I had a lazy streak, so she didn't believe me, even when I could remember lines from my work. 2K votes, 4K comments. My mom would beg. I (33M) have NC with my parents (72M retired and 65F about to retire) and siblings for about 1. My son explained that he had to skip a workday which cost him to lose money and asked my boyfriend to pay him for his time. My son was also extremely happy to finally have a friend his own age. But my mom found out I had money for some special treats for my little brother and sister. My mother weighed less and was always just as unhealthy. I never liked my stepfather or his family to begin with so I hated this idea. When we returned, My son asked my boyfriend to pay him for "babysitting" "his kids" I admit my son doesn't have the best relationship with his stepdad or stepsiblings but My boyfriend and I were shocked by this. I (F17) am the oldest of 3 living with my two siblings (F14 and M10) and our mother. Both of them aren't neutral in judging me, obviously. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I told my parents that if they didn't want me to move for my new job they would have to pay me the difference between my current income and my new job. My parents would just nap through the day or have to work. Last month, we were made aware of videos the boy was making of my son and sending them to children from his school. And I like working. All I’m doing for anyone and they better not call me ever because I’m not answering. My dad says he knows why I did and he understands. When my dad finally responded to my text asking if my siblings were all on a trip together I was told I was being dramatic and needed to get over it because I wouldn't have been able to afford it so they didn't invite me. My issue is that once she passes im to be expected to essentially fill the mother role in ways im not sure im capable of and if im being honest, not sure I event want to. true. ) wife doesn't want to try to raise them on her own, agrees to My wife and I have two kids [also 3/13mo coincidentally]. They made a comment that I'm working the same job that I've had since I was 15 and how I'll be broke forever then told me to get a real job like my brother (accountant) and sister (nurse). However, they didn't ask for my help, they tried to steal the money I made. It might not have been my place to do so Help keep the sub engaging! Don’t downvote assholes! Do upvote interesting posts! Click Here For Our Rules and Click Here For Our FAQ My friend allowed my daughter and I to move in with her. My carer has a signed and witnessed POA as my designated NOK for health reasons, but my spouse can and will This year my half sister was diagnosed with a life threatening sickness, and she has been in the hospital for the last four months. I couldn’t help also dropping the fact that I am covering the remaining $190, to which they started complaining wasn’t fair. I'm refusing to help my stepkids get any money for college because I'm not the reason they were cut out of the will. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I feel like I really WAS being to touchy and overreactive over the allergy, and possibly too rough with his sister when I could have just sat down and talked to her Unbeknownst to me my grandmother had it in her will that any money owed by grandkids to her at the time of her death was forfeit from inheritance to the parent of that grandkid. My AITA for not giving her the money and causing this massive fall out with my family? Haha, no. 1: Taking the car back, thus causing my sister to lose her job. After he passed his sister/executor asked if I would give money to his parents since he left me everything and them nothing - I said no. My SIL (married to my brother) told me I was an asshole for throwing half in their faces and cutting them from my wedding like we haven't been siblings our whole lives. I'm also not giving them any money for it out of my own pocket because I don't have any due to financial struggles. Within 5 years 2 online shops & a lot of investing in real estate & stocks I now make way more money than my parents ever made combined. "AITA for refusing to help my parents financially after they secretly supported my 'perfect' sibling instead of me?" Growing up, I was always the “self-sufficient” one. We don’t get much financial aid as a result of my parents’ income and savings. I have asked my siblings if they could move My brother, his wife, and their almost four year old son were among the guests. Since then I've been helping my mom with raising my siblings the best I can. I have known Jake & Ava for only a few months as they transferred to my work location from a different one. I chose to live with my grandparents instead of my dad's wife and my siblings after we lost dad. I Here’s where things get tricky: Both of my siblings are now in a financial crisis. Help keep the sub engaging! Don’t downvote assholes! Do upvote interesting posts! So regularly there are 6 of us - and like everyone has JOBS and money and we don’t need to all be in one house. ) my father lived modestly up until 20 some years ago, and my sisters lived with with my grandmother during most of their childhood—-but my mother tried to adopt them when they were 6; they refused wanting to stay with the grandmother. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I chose to take in my biological sisters who I share both parents with, with my brothers help am raising them because of an unstable life with our dad. If I had talked like that to my sibling or my mother, I would have had to cut my own switch, and then probably dig my own grave. It sounds like it really sucks. Original Post - Oct 25, 2023. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I might be the AH for not helping my mom when we're struggling for money rn, she's really worried about us and she doesn't use her money to buy nice things for her or I (17F) have a college fund started by my grandparents (maternal and paternal) with some of the money coming from my parents. This story involves Jake, Ava, & Bri (all fake names). my grandfather bought my dad a very nice house. My SIL left her mission early because she was having stomach problems that no one believed were real but she did in fact have some issues that needed to be treated. So I would like to know if AITA for getting involved or if I did the right thing. She said 40 so she set her trust fund to be released to her fully when she turned 40 and if she died before then my siblings and I would have gotten it when we were all of age. PS: money is taxed and clean, and it is perfectly ok for our parents to give it My uterus has expanded to about 5 months pregnancy at my last scan in 2021. They’ve also reached out to my aunt and cousins multiple times trying to get them to convince me to change my mind. I have NEVER spoken to my siblings in my life. Long story short, my online shop blew up & made well over six figures my first year. My dad married my step mom Rose when I was about 2 years old. 2: My parents argue that we had a deal. Help keep the sub engaging! Don’t downvote assholes! Do upvote interesting posts! Click Here For Our Rules and Click Here For Our FAQ. About five years ago, they went In a recent post on Reddit’s r/AITAH forum, a user named OwnBet5510 shared a deeply personal dilemma involving their estranged sibling, inheritance, and family dynamics. So I can see how I could be the ass here. Now that my dad has passed I have inherited everything from him and learned that my father owned alot more properties and had alot more money then I could have ever imagine. I can't tell how old your siblings are, and I think you at 13 now. Online he’s saying how I ruined his youth by trapping him with a baby. My Dad easily remembered the book report and even a sentence he had helped me tweak. I worked Whenever I protested this my mom would threaten to charge me $2000 a month for renting my room and said if I tried to move out before I was 18 she’d have me charged as a runaway. They both posted that I ruined the vacation by being so thoughtless. I explained that I still have the money mom left me, that my grandparents also had a separate college fund for me and that my aunts and uncle (mom’s siblings) also had smaller college funds for me. Nothing big. Please view our voting guide here, and remember to use only one judgement in your comment. My parents were very mad at me for losing my passport. She said she knows Cassie is frustrating but I know that’s just how my sister is and I’m supposed to ignore her. My siblings are all well off and I am disabled and barely making ends meet on SSI. I had it, my mom had it, my brother had it, my cousins husband had it, my husbands uncle had it, my aunt had it 3 coworkers had it and my best friend had it. Sounds a little selfish but is it wrong? I’m pretty sure he was gone by the time my second child was born, but at that point my bio-siblings had been ostracized from the remaining family (who were all mom’s husband’s kids) so I didn’t get unwanted information about him in incidental conversation. If I tell him, I will be betraying my other sons trust because I told him that it is his decision when to tell Connor. "AITA for refusing to split my inheritance with my siblings?" I’ll try to summarize as much as possible. I was going to keep working and giving my parents the money I always do. My (28M) parents had me when they were young, and my mother died soon after my birth. Just a switch and some games. I was so excited to help her plan her wedding and I took on most of the work since i was unemployed at the time and she's a doctor. My brother is a freelancer, so more often than I like, he is struggling. he doesn’t keep it clean and "AITA for not giving my inheritance to any of my siblings?" My dad has passed away and I have gotten all of his inheritance. They’ve come to me asking if I’d be willing to share more of my inheritance to help them out. 51K Likes, 1620 Comments. The money is enough where even if I pay for college and buy a house I would have money left. My health is getting better, though I have some complex and painful gut issues. Honestly, this is one of the reasons my former spouse and I haven't sought a legal divorce or separation - I have multiple chronic illnesses, and I do not want my family, and especially my mother, involved in any decisions regarding my care in dire circumstances. Emily is disabled and because of that my parents dedicated themselves 100% to her leaving the rest of us to fend for ourselves. Couldn’t pay for it because my parents assured me that they would lose the house, be destitute, not make it. My dad raised us in strict milltary style household he was a horrible father who take things to the extreme in our childhood and all of his children stopped talking to him. My parents recently asked about my job and education and were not happy when I said I'm a nanny and have my masters in special education. I (30F) was appointed MOH. Money was always a sore point, as my ex had embarked upon a “spiritual path” that prevented him, he said, from working full time. My boyfriend is moving in, my house is in a better location and is nicer, than his apartment. Her side of the story is down that vein. I have two siblings with different dads and nothing ever this heinous came out of out our mouths. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I insulted my parents and siblings beliefs during a fight over something I could not control and something I felt was unfair to be held against me. I got drunk with my cousins and my mom was overwhelmed by her needy relatives. Our father left when my brother was born, and afterwards we moved states closer to family for help. Laura came home crying the other day because Emily came back with food from her favourite restaurant and didn't give her anything or offer to share so I called my ex and told him that he needs to stop giving Emily lunch money and have her make her own lunches because she was hurting Laura. Maybe due to my bias, I have no sympathy for the 16 year old. I had a cavity. AITA for not helping my siblings? Specifically my brother I guess Update: I’m offering to pay for everyone to get a vasectomy/ tubes tied this Christmas and giving my brother enough money to cover the red roof inn for a week. I am working a serving job at a mid level restaurant (bills typic Yeah this was me. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: 1 I argued over money, even though money shouldn't be so important as to come between us 2 he doesn't have much independence and never has money, and I just feel 8. I haven't visited my parents since the incident with my mom (about 3 weeks ago, and we adult kids usually visit every week if nothing comes up). At the time my little brother Austin was 2, and she was pregnant with my sister Alyssa. I waited until my mom had gone to work and my siblings were at school before taking my electronics along with some smaller things I had bought that my siblings ended up with. I go on Snapchat & to my text messages & I am being sent screenshots of my siblings very publicly humiliating me & disowning me. The three Xmases I spent with that family, I bought and wrapped all the gifts, for which my then-husband took sole credit. Also money wise I couldn't really double my budget for 2 extra people. I also now have to fix and repair the other house, while doing this I give money to my brother when he has a hard time and life is difficult for him. They ended up trying to get me to give them the money I made selling my car so they wouldn't lose the house. They have been good friends for around 2 years now. After my dad died, Rose left me to foster care. 5 years now, but I have always been sending my parents money on the 1st of every month ever since I graduated college and got a job. He died when I was 6 because of cancer. I definitely mouth off sometimes and deserve to be yelled at, and by all means I'm not saying my parents are toxic or abusive. The money they spent on my flight and entrance was wasted. If they get upset with him getting the money he contributed to the AITA for causing my siblings to lose massive amounts of money when they need it most? This is a messy situation all around. Seven months ago, we got new neighbors. It destroyed half my jaw. Now, I would've been perfectly fine helping them out since they have helped me so many times before. My mom and sister have both been posting about how hard it is to be at Disneyland with two little ones. I gave her the wad of cash, said that was all the money I had to spare on this trip and she could decide who deserved it most. Sometimes I feel like my actions are justified while at other times I AITA for causing my siblings to lose massive amounts of money when they need it most? This is a messy situation all around. My brother said that he’d replace the toy if I told him where I got it. Overall I think the cost of everything put together was about $1500 (I had some expensive miniatures my mom had given to my brother that I took back along with my dungeons and dragons stuff). I only lost 90lbs from 320-230. My mom still loosing (she had it 1 year ago) my aunt had it a long time ago and never gained weight back. What I said hurt them. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I refused to help my family pay off my grandparents' debts, which will cause them to lose the house that's been in the family for generations. I get my hysterectomy in two months and its expected to correct issues. Since then I have been receiving message after message from my mom, my siblings and even my stepdad begging me for help. That’s it. As people were leaving, my brother asked if my nephew could take home one of my 2 year old son’s toy trucks. It really fucked up my SIL to not be believed and then to have people think the worst. Help keep the sub engaging! Don’t downvote assholes! Do upvote interesting posts! I didn’t ask for his money. I increased this amount as my career progressed, so as of 2020, I was sending them both $1000 each. I have a 5-person family, and if my documents are to be trusted, I'm a 40-year-old man, so I've been cooking for about 25, but I learned cooking from my mom, and that means that I just can't for the life of I can't touch it until I'm 19 with the way my dad set it up. My mil told the entire family and ward that my SIL came home dishonorably. . Darn. I’ve been independent my whole life by doing odd jobs to buy my own stuff, studying my ass off and when I finally get where I am, I want to be able to spend my own money for myself. Husband had an affair, had a kid. I remember one thread, a while back. My partner left me an important amount of money when he passed and left nothing to his parents. I've been in contact with my siblings, though. If OP had allowed that/gone with it there’s plenty of long term consequences that could come up, like Maddie feeling unable to stand up for herself to her cousins, honestly to more than just her cousins, and seeing OP as someone who will enable The action I took that should be judged is refusing to lend my sister money, as well as showing off my money and lifestyle too much 2) This could make me the AH if I was wrong and cruel to not help out my sister, and if I handled everything wrong. Guy of course is thankful and defends me. My mother comes to stay with me and Ry leaves the hospital, shortly after Ry leaves I started receiving texts and calls shaming me for faking cancer. My aunt only lives a 45min walk away so it won't be too bad and she will drive me there in a rush if needed. The oldest taking care of my two younger siblings and my little sister had severe autism and epilepsy and wasn't able to do anything on her own so that was a lot by itself. They’ve begun harassing my husband and my SIL. Help keep the sub engaging! Don’t downvote assholes! Do upvote interesting posts! I second this. My father was too emotionally unstable to parent. She promised my dad that she would take care of me when he's gone. Sometimes I feel like my actions are justified while at other times I So, I (26M) grew up in what I thought was a typical family. She thinks that in a year, we would be more financially prepared to take on the kids, which to me is guesswork. Where do I even begin. He’s my dad’s father, but my dad hardly had a relationship with him. My sister had paid me some money so me doing this essentially means she's out of that cash and her job and a car. Help keep the sub engaging! Don’t downvote assholes! Do upvote interesting posts! I (F) just had my 21st birthday in which I invited my boyfriend (Jake), my best friend (Liam), & other close friends (Ava & Bri). So I have some time to deal with this but my mom and her husband want me to share the money with my stepsiblings (14, 8 and 7). So I feel like maybe I'm a bit of an asshole for that. My dad worked little, my mom actually worked like a horse but my dad would blow through all the money. he didn’t have to, but he did. I know im not a perfect kid. AITA for asking about my share of inheritance, which basically challenges my mom's right to her money and assets and for causing this conflict? My grandma gifted me about 5k after moving in with her to help me start an online business I told her about. I know my siblings miss me like crazy and I knew they had lost dad and were scared. #aitareddit #redditstoriestok #podcastclip”. And I gave everyone a headache by “provoking” her and causing the drama of her crying and yelling at Thanksgiving. My biological mother was abusive and I know the difference. I dropped my toxic family and got into therapy. But he can be shit on and discarded like he's nothing. I told them that I was doing this because I loved my siblings and I wanted them to be better parents for them and I had to leave for that to happen. And, you don't talk to people that way. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I told my friend I saw our other friend and her brother in a compromising position even though I knew it would upset my friend and would most likely result in her asking Yup, and apparently those strings are allow Nate and the kids to walk all over OP and Maddie along with treating them like shit. AITA?. He may be able to afford the loss but his siblings should care enough that he gets his money back and not take the loss. AITA For Causing My Coworker To Lose A 500$ TipI am currently in my senior year of college. TikTok video from ComfortLevelPodcast (@comfortlevelpodcast): “Listen to the latest podcast clip discussing the challenging situation of a parent potentially causing their child to lose their own child. i was upset when he passed because we had always been a bit closer than him and the rest of my siblings/family. I informed my father of the situation, which is causing legal repercussions for my mother concerning custody of my underage siblings. Which is nice, we were living in a bad area before so this can be a fresh start. My nephew had been playing with it nonstop since they arrived and wanted to keep it. She has her own room and we give her a lot of space, and my wife is very respectful towards her. Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. While my parents are able to comfortably pay for my college and maintain their life, they wouldn’t be able to do so for any of my siblings. My parents have split their will so that the grandchildren get some money each (I have no idea how much, it could be the same as me and my siblings are getting), and the rest is equally split between me and my siblings. I'm 18F. Husband and wife already have several kids, (I think it was 4 or 5, enough that trying to raise them as a single parent would have been difficult, and hard to find a job that will pay enough for childcare for that many kids. My mother was the fourth wife, and my sisters mother was the second wife (she was extremely abusive to her children which is why he left her. This was also something for me and my sister, wasn't really planning on taking 3 kids on a vacation. ofraz dsqhk gxqm fqz nwrgdh qrr pxioe sttr eusyo vngacpi